Goodbye

 

“I have become more comfortable as time has gone on with saying goodbye because. . . I’ve been having so many conversations about the cyclical nature of life. It just keeps going.” ~ Brie Larson

As of midnight tonight, one third of 2021 will be done and dusted, gone, finished. And that is an invitation to stop and review. Look back, analyze and recalibrate before moving forward. Say goodbye properly by thanking that period of your life, learning from it and releasing it so you can face the future with a clear rear view mirror.

There’s a number of ways I change season. I call them ‘spring cleaning’ methods. Taking time off to review my journal reflections of the past and note down any significant learning from them. A multiple day water fast, taking down a bunch of things and having them justify taking space in my life, or else they get to go. A private party with a treat of my choice to celebrate the past season, my success or my resilience through it. . .the ways are endless and can be customized to the season you’re in or are leaving. But the point is the same – round off and close the chapter so you can start a fresh new one.

Fasting especially has played a huge role in my life in the last 2 years going on 3. Circumstances in my life forced me to come to a point of evaluation of the role of food and the results it was having on my life. What I was eating, how much of it I was consuming, how often I stopped to eat, my cravings and how I was relating to food. When I decided to make fasting a regular part of my life, I met with resistance. My mind and stomach were not amused and they did not waste time letting me know about it. In addition, I had also decided it was time to bid goodbye to sugar and a few other ‘treats’. . .the battle lines had been drawn! I laugh now when I look at my journal entries of those days. It took a lot of mental fortitude, continuous learning and reassurance that I was on the right path, for me to be able to find the courage to stand up to my stomach and assert my place as boss. Months later, I look back with gratitude at the results.

Indeed it is not easy to go over my online connections and cull those that no longer ‘pay rent’ for their existence either out of irrelevance or because I have grown beyond them. It is not easy to take down your whole wardrobe and only return those clothes that still fit and that are still worn, then give away everything whose time is up. It is even harder to give up books from my library! BUT, if I keep holding on to things that have served their time, will I ever make room for new experiences, new friends, new information, and new beginnings?

As we go into the month of May, let go of old dreams, past failures, unnecessary baggage, regret and heart break. Wrap things up, take the lessons and ship the rest out of your life. Clean up the freed closet space then start giving thanks for the new things that will finally be free to come in. Let go of the old, embrace the new.  

“It’s time to say goodbye, but I think goodbyes are sad and I’d much rather say hello. Hello to a new adventure.”- Ernie Harwell

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  1. BTOMay 1, 2021 at 7:37 PM

    All I can say is a hearty AMEN! Going through my own season changes.

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